In this section you will learn about the sequence of events in a traditional public marriage. There is not much of a protocol per se, but it helps to have a structure in mind that has worked wonderfully for couples over the ages. This explanation will also provide you with some ideas of how you may want to enhance your experience to accentuate your magical moments leading up to your first kiss as a married couple. I will be happy to share a printed copy to you upon your request when we meet and start to get everything organized. THE PROCESSIONAL As you can see in the picture, the processional is what starts everything off. Your guests would have arrived by then and are seated. Your San Diego public marriage officiant - me, is ready at the altar or front of the wedding area waiting for you. Hey, no runaway groom or bride please! We would have all gathered to celebrate your union. The processional involves a sequence in which the significant parties in your public marriage would enter the wedding area and take up positions to make it easier for the two of you to go through the events.
The final formation will look like something below.
It does not have to follow the exact same sequence or the formation indicated above. However as you can see the formation makes some logical sense based on the roles different people would play in your wedding procession.
FAMILY BLESSING This is an opportunity for the Father or the Mother or another family of the bride to bless and give away the bride in marriage. As your wedding officiant, I will ask your accompanying family member if they are ready to give away the bride. They will bless you and give their approval. WELCOME STATEMENT This is my opening welcome statement in your ceremony where I will thank everyone in attendance for being present for the momentous occasion of your wedding after I introduce myself as your wedding officiant. I will talk about the significance of a martial relationship and any special message that you might have requested me to convey . If you wanted me to tell your story that brought you together, I would have all that prepared ahead of time and probably also would have rehearsed with you before your wedding day. I would share your love story with the group evoking emotions and even some laughter to mark the joyous occasion. WEDDING SERMON If you wanted me to share a short message, secular or religious sermon, this would be the time for me to read and to share that with the guests. Sometimes couples may want to have some of their guests make a performance appropriate for the occasion and this is the opportunity for short performance like musical number or a happy dance symbolizing your union. It is entirely up to you on how you want to use this opportunity. CONSECRATION Here I would share a religious or secular prayer for the both of you to have a glori ous future together and celebrate the dedication and love you have for each other. Again, it is up to you whether you want something like this in your wedding or not. Told ya, all of these details need to be finalized before the wedding and is part of my interview with you when we sit down and plan everything out. EXCHANGING VOWS If you have written your own vows fantastic. If you had asked me to write your vows, I will be carrying them with me and you would keep a copy. The groom would read his vows first and then the bride would read her vows for the groom. While the groom can easily slip his vows in a pocket, it is usually not possible for the bride to do the same. So you can have your maid of honor carry them for you and hand it over to your when the time is right. Sometimes, the bride and groom may not even need to refer to a sheet of paper to read their vows. They just hold each other's hands, look into each other's eyes and recite their vows just naturally. If you are nervous about this extemporary speech, I do recommend that we get your vows written and rehearsed in advance. Hey, it's just an emotion filled love letter - that should not be too tough to come up with, right? If you are challenged with writing your vows, I can take care of that for you when I interview you before the wedding. DECLARATION OF INTENT This is when you need to get ready for your "I Do" when I ask the groom first and then the bride, whether you would take each other as your lawfully wedded wife and husband respectively. Folks, let's leave Hollywood aside here and not have any second thoughts about your intentions to commit yourselves to each other in blissful matrimony, unless of course ... EXCHANGING RINGS Rings have no beginning and no end, symbolizing the endless an infinite love you have for each other. This is the time I will invite you to exchange your rings with each other. If a ring bearer is carrying your rings, they will come forward and hand over the rings to you. As you place the rings on each other's ring finger, sealing your love in an endless bond of togetherness, I will make some statements of the symbolism of the rings in marriage. PRONOUNCEMENT We're almost there by this time. I usually would not ask if there is anyone among the invitees would object to the two of you to get married. But if that is what you want me to ask anyway (ok, let's keep Hollywood away folks), I can ask that question. Otherwise, with the power vested upon me by the Universal Life Church and the State of California I would declare the two of you as husband and wife. THE KISS The moment's here as you celebrate your formal public marriage with your first kiss as a married couple. Time will seem to have stopped for the two of you as your energies merge into one another in that kiss. Prepare for a lot of cheering, flower showers, fist pumps, music encores, camera flashes, strobe lights and so on as everyone joins in to celebrate your moments of oblivious entanglement in your love and passion for each other. You made it. PRESENTATION After the cheering has calmed down and you have stepped off your state of blissful oblivion, I will formally make a statement to refer to you two by name and present the two of you as Mr. and Mrs. the groom's or the bride's last name you want me to use as indicated in your marriage license. If you are retaining your unmarried names, I can say those names to refer to you and present you to the guests as the newly married couple. Prepare for another round of cheering and celebration. OPTIONAL CEREMONIES If you wanted to perform any ceremonies like the sand ceremony or a rise ceremony etc, we could do it at this time or earlier, depending on your preference. It is your day and you're the boss lady and boss man. This is also the time I perform my special surprise ceremony to bind in your new marital status into a deeper bond of companionship. LEGAL FORMALITIES We are literally done. Now that I have solemnized your wedding and you are accepting all the congratulatory customs from your guests, I will sign your marriage license having officiated your public marriage and hand it over to you along with your commemorative marriage certificate. At your request, I can submit that marriage licence to the county office on your behalf or you can take care of that yourself within 10 days of the wedding date. You will need to visit the County office anytime later to obtain a couple of certified copied of your public marriage license for your own records. RECESSIONAL This is the last section of the formalities of a traditional public marriage ceremony. The bride and groom will walk down the aisle hand in hand to leave the wedding area posing and smiling for the flashing cameras. The rest of the wedding party will follow the bride and groom in a last in first out basis. so the ring bearer and flower girl leaves first followed by the maid of honor and best man, followed by the bridesmaids and groomsmen. I will be the last to leave the wedding area as you two head off to the festivities of your wedding reception as America's hottest newly married couple. Enjoy the experience to your fill.